Thanks, y’all

While I’d be the first to describe myself as a cheerful optimist, one of my favorite pasttimes is lamenting the lack of courtesy in my day-to-day interactions with other people. Hardly anyone holds the door for me (or anyone else that’s entering or exiting the QuikTrip). It’s rare that someone makes eye contact or listens when I reply to their “Have a nice day” with an upbeat “You too!” and a smile. And I’ve never received a thank you note for Christmas gifts in the mail from any of my cousin’s kids, who definitely know how to read and write.

Buttons doesn't like being disturbed from naps.
Buttons doesn’t like being disturbed from naps.

I don’t think people are intentionally unmannerly; I think they don’t care. Or maybe they don’t know. Or they’re too busy with their own lives. Whatever the reason, it makes me feel discouraged sometimes.

Yesterday, when I wrote a post asking for positive thoughts for my sick dog, I was overwhelmed with well-wishes and concern. People told me they’d pray for my dog. For my dog! This outpouring of kindness from you, who are mostly people I’ve never met in person, and many real-life friends, was deeply touching.

Gazing into the yard.
Gazing into the yard.

So thanks, y’all. I very much appreciated your caring thoughts, your prayers, and your regard for Buttons’ cuteness. Buttons spent the night at the her regular vet clinic and is receiving fluids throughout today. The vet reports Buttons is improving and is absolutely optimistic she’ll recover.

I am grateful that courtesy and kindness are alive and well, at least in my part of the world.

Ear lulz
Ear lulz


Author: Stephanie

Equestrian, amateur cook, people person.

29 thoughts on “Thanks, y’all”

  1. I’m sorry people are so rude. I go out of my way to do all of those things you mentioned (though, I’m not always good with the thank you notes…) because my parents raised me properly. I’m always a little sad when I hold the door for someone and they look at me so gratefully and in disbelief. Why? Because I didn’t slam the door in their face?!
    I’m glad Buttons is in improving! I hope she’s home soon. Like today. Today would be a great day for a home coming 🙂

    1. It’s totally bizarre to me, too, although I attribute a lot of it to living in Oklahoma. People here seem much crabbier than in other places I’ve lived! I write thank-you notes obsessively; Johnny’s family was flabbergasted to receive them after sending me Christmas gifts for the first time. I was like, “…what?! Why?” I am not always the picture of decorum- I’ve been rude or tart with people, but I feel like that’s the exception, not the rule!

  2. I’m so glad to read this update. This community is really the best. All those well-wishes and you’d never gotten them if you hadn’t started writing about your horse on the internet. Isn’t life strange sometimes?

    1. I feel kind of dumb to be so touched by people mentioning that they’re wishing my dog the best- I mean, Buttons is a dog, and a pretty great dog, but that people took a couple of minutes to say, “I hope she’s feeling better soon!” or include Buttons in a prayer is very, very kind of them.

  3. Awww, that adorable face! I’m so glad to hear she’s feeling better.

    I have to echo Jen and Lauren – this blogging community is really the best. Sure, we don’t physically see each other every day, but everyone’s in the same boat and we’ve all been there before. Plus, how can you not send good vibes for THOSE EARS!?!?! Here’s hoping she can come home for the weekend!

    1. I’ve often wondered why the equestrian blogging community is such a pleasant place in comparison to other blogging communities- I mean, the mommy bloggers and the lifestyle bloggers and the healthy living bloggers seem to attract a lot more vitriol than we do! I think it’s exactly what you said- everyone’s in the same boat and we’ve all been there before.

  4. I think you need to move to Canada. Almost everywhere I go people are holding the door for each other. I can hardly remember a time when someone didn’t positively respond to “Have a great day”.

    I’m really glad to hear that Buttons is on the mend.

  5. I hadn’t gotten to leave a comment on your last post about Buttons, but count me among those who will be praying for her!! Hope your little sweetie is feeling better soon and you find a way to manage her condition!

  6. i’m so glad Buttons is doing well!! and agree with you about often feeling a little discouraged at the absence of plain civility in so much that we do. i like to believe that common courtesy could save the world lol, tho perhaps that’s a little naive 😉

  7. I am totally familiar with the world of dog well-wishing, and it is real, and one of the best things about the internet!

  8. I am guilty of forgetting the thank you cards too! I do make sure that I thank the person when I first receive the present though.

    I also think that nice-ness is going out the window in general. Walking around school it disgusts me the amount of kids that barely look up from their cellphones while they are walking. I rarely hear a please or thank you between people when doors are held open, or other nice things are done. I always try to make sure I make the effort to be nice to people, though it is rarely returned.

  9. I love a good set of pointy ears! So glad to hear she is doing better. I hope she gets back to her normal self again soon. What a cutie!

  10. People in Stillwater are super friendly, so I’d hate to think it’s Oklahoma 🙁 However, I have found myself just going about my business through the day and suddenly realize I probably seem like a total Bword. Not because I’m rude, but because I’m not opening my eyes to the people around me. I need to work on that. Anyway, I’m glad Buttons is improving. Keep us updated. Horse people get it, ya know?

  11. So glad she is improving! I missed the first post, so am sending you lots of positive thoughts now for a quick recovery and a happy Buttons!

  12. I have a lot of those same thoughts about people and society. I often have to remind myself that not all people are the same. There are lots of good ones out there too. So glad to hear that Buttons is doing better.

  13. Or it is super awkward when someone asks how you are and when you honestly respond…I mean they asked! I always like to give a call or text fora thank you, but need to work on my card skills 🙂

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