Wedding planning is…going. I’ve sent half a dozen emails to half a dozen different people regarding the wedding. I’ve acquired addresses of friends and relatives I didn’t know I had. I’ve set meetings. I feel like I’m pretty on track, all things considered.
Today’s topic is a question for y’all: Did you change your last name when you married? If you’re not married, how do you feel about changing your name?
Personally, I am ambivalent about it. I have zero ideological qualms about changing or not changing my name. My concerns are more practical: changing my name on legal documents seems like a huge pain in the ass. Changing my name on things like my bank account, Netflix account, and USEA card seem like somewhat more minor pains in the ass. What about things like my email address, which has served me well since approximately 2006? And let’s not talk about how many items I’ve monogrammed with my current initials.
Opposite of this problem is the problem of not changing my name. Will that be a pain for other people? Will it matter if someday, someone writes a check to “Stephanie Lauderdale” instead of “Stephanie Peck” and I can’t cash it? If we have children, is it going to lead to weird assumptions and/or questions if I have a different last name?
I’m curious to hear your thoughts on it.
Don’t even suggest hyphenating, y’all. Fifteen characters is too many for me.